[ Steve Jobs Said Your Overall Happiness in Life Really Comes Down to Asking 4 Simple Questions: ]

The co-founder of Apple delivered these words to a newly minted class of Stanford University graduates in 2005. Not long before the commencement, Jobs had been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and was given between three and six months to live.

Facing his own mortality had impressed upon him the importance of living the best possible life, and it was a message he passed on to the new graduates, and to the rest of the world watching.

3 questions you should be asking

Jobs's message gave us plenty of things to chew on about what truly matters in our own lives. And to this day, whenever I watch that commencement speech, it forces me to look in the mirror and ask myself some really powerful, Jobs-inspired questions that, I hope, you will ask yourself.

In the face of his looming death, something powerful shifted inside Jobs. He began to live each day as if it was his last--because it may have been. Thinking about the limited amount of time you and I have left on this earth isn't meant to be a downer. On the contrary, it empowers us to use that precious time in the most meaningful way possible.

Jobs called facing his death "the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life." Almost everything, he said -- our fears, failures, and our pride -- "fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important."

  2. "If today were the last day of my life, 
would I want to do what I am about to do today?"

This is a question that Jobs said he asked himself 
every day -- while literally standing in front of his 
mirror -- after being diagnosed with his terminal illness. 

Jobs said, "Whenever the answer has been no for too many 
days in a row, I know I need to change something." If I asked 
myself that same question every day during this stage of my life 
and career, the answer would be a resounding "yes!" I say this 
because I'm doing what I have passionately been called to do and 
I'm living out my purpose.

I urge you to do the same. Be willing to confront yourself and 
ask this same question when you start your day. Pay attention to 
what's coming up for you as you check in with your feelings. 
If you're being true to yourself, it can be frightening to admit 
you're not living the life you want, but it's the only way to pivot 
toward the pursuit of something new--something that may be your true calling.

3. Am I doing what I love?

As Jobs explains, living someone else's life is wasting your own. 
Instead, he urges you to find the role you were meant to fill.

   You've got to find what you love. ... Your work is going to fill a 
   large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is 
   to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great 
   work is to love what you do.

Doing what we love gives us purpose, which fuels our drive to get up 
in the morning and, in the words of Warren Buffett, "tap dance to work." 
Research published in Harvard Business Review concluded that to be 
fully engaged and happy, people need to feel as if their work matters 
and that their contributions help to achieve something important.

When people find purpose in their work, and they love 
what they do, it will not only improve that person's happiness, 
it will boost their productivity. To end on a hopeful note, 
if you don't know what it is you love to do, then.

I urge your first step to be finding out what it is you should be doing. Don't just take my word for it; it's what Steve Jobs would want you to do as well

Source:
https://www.inc.com/

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Now I had a challenge on myself.Having 5 sisters and only one younger brother in a highly orthodox bramhin family,only thouse in my group can guess the struggle parents had in thous days educating and getting all of them married.The other part being my working hours [ in a the textile mill except Sunday's all other days the plant works from 7.00 AM to 7.00 AM.,with a break for lunch after every 4 hours.Which means I had to be at my work spot at 7.00 AM,3.00 PM, & 11.00 PM.It was called First shift at 7.00 AM.Second shift at 3.00 PM and Third shift at 11.00 PM.To leave a girl of just 19 years of age all alone at 11.00 PM in a house which was isolated from other buildings was a tough problem for me but my wife was innocently blind to any thinking that I had of the kind in my mind.To my luck very soon I was promoted and was placed in charge of duties which involved maintenance of machines and this was being done only during day shift. My duty hours now was only from 7.00 AM to 3.00 PM.[ so no problem ].
So it was a challenge again for me to have only a boy first and think next.How do you do this?.
I consulted lot of my colleagues and collected tips of all sorts including a spiritual tip on how a baby boy can come first in the family.My wife did hers which will come elsewhere in this [ 1 to ? ].
I did all which are classified tips including the spiritual and practiced the spiritual till the last day.I will mention that day later.
I was working in a textile mill in Coimbatore near the hill station 'Ooty' which was a tourist paradise thouse days in 50's.There was a qualified technical assist to help me and two experienced jobbers ( Foreman's in Engineering terminology ).They were my consultants on personal matters also.I mention this,as it is relevent to my problems.There was a senior bramhin administrative staff who was incharge of the plant production accountings.He was my financial adviser in the sence whenever I was short of cash he would lend me any amount.Even the Deputy Plant Manager would but I never did approach him except for just once and once only.Why did I do it,will be said in some other context.
I went on as the days went by and was more serious in my job than anything.I never bothered to ask my wife if she was pregnant.By God!!, my heart skipped a beat when she told me she was pregnant.

All sorts of worry and fear started.